I know it’s tempting to buy into the idea that you can wipe the slate clean.. especially around the New Year.. whether it’s in 3 days to 30, that in one fell swoop you can move from a way of eating that makes you feel weighed down, out of control, or unhealthy… to purified, light, and transformed, never again to allow a morsel of “unclean” food to touch your lips again.
I wish I could tell you how many women land on my doorstep, either mid-cleanse/detox.. or shortly after… feeling like failures, feeling demoralized, and feeling anything but “clean”, anything but transformed. Mostly they feel worse than when they started.. having been unable to stick to the regime, not gotten the wished for results, and often having landed in a binge after so much restriction.
I kind of gave away the ending. If you are somebody who has any kind of tendency to binge eat.. the strict detoxes or cleanses aren’t a great strategy for you.. too restrictive and there’s a good chance you’ll find yourself binge eating either before you finish the program or shortly after. Even people who don’t typically binge eat often have this experience.. it’s a normal response to starving and deprivation at that level.
But..I am a big believer in cleansing or detoxing.. I just have my clients do it differently. I know that people who are attracted to detox plans are typically looking for the quick-fix..that of course is the appeal of something so restrictive. You want fast results.. you want a way out of longstanding patterns that have been dogging you.. this is one more thing that you’re willing to try to get some peace, to try to create some freedom in the body wars.
You might want to try it this way instead..you won’t get the fast results, but you will get results and changes you can live with. Take one substance out at a time. Typically in a standard cleanse or detox there are basic “offenders” that are eliminated. These might be sugar, flour/wheat or gluten, dairy, caffeine, alcohol, and sometimes animal products. Very often all of the above are eliminated in one fell swoop. This will be extremely challenging for most people and will lead to physical and emotional symptoms that can be seriously uncomfortable. It requires a lot of commitment, a lot of planning, and some space to go through what is going to come.
I believe that it’s very worthwhile eliminating some of the above mentioned substances.. one at a time. Getting solid and comfortable and adjusting emotionally and your way of eating before removing the next one. Create momentum that’s solid..It’s possible to do this AND still feel comfortable. To FEEL your way through it intuitively in ways that are manageable and let you hold your center. In ways you can SUCCEED!
Personally I have eliminated gluten, dairy, caffeine, and love juice and green smoothies in the morning.. but I didn’t do all of this at once.. and my way of eating is still very intuitive and changes day to day and with the seasons. This is how I try to guide my clients.. very individually around their needs, preferences/chemistry, and personal goals.
You’ve had enough of feeling like a failure. Of falling off plans. Of the noisy chatter of negative beliefs that taunt you within your own mind. You don’t have to go there. Try a little tenderness (love that song.. I was 10 when Otis Redding was singing that!).
Slow and steady wins the race.. but pretty much always, in my experience. Trust yourself.. trust what you know from all of your experience. Trust yourself not to put yourself through something that will leave you feeling badly..again. Try something different to get a different outcome, yes?
Whatever you’ve done in the past, if it hasn’t worked, hasn’t sustained you, hasn’t given you peace that has lined up with what you really want, and who you really want to be in the world.. try something else. I want that for you.
Want some help getting started? Some feedback that’s just right for you? An intuitive individual consult with me is a valuable way to see if this work is right for you and to get some fresh perspective. Email me at Lisa at IntuitiveBody dot com
With love.. heart to heart..