Welcome to the Wise Woman Council October 2012.
I’m writing this in the energy of the full moon and shortly after the Fall Equinox..and right on schedule the days are shorter. As we lose the light, it seems more essential than ever to hold close the ways that you refill your well, to claim the sources of energy that are yours .. and then soak them up. This is our third month publishing the Wise Woman Council..and there are now 33 women’s beautiful rituals collected. An abundance of love and support.
And of course some themes have emerged. Of gratitude, and treasured time with family, of beautiful meals and loving preparations, of morning intentions and sacred prayers. I had a sense of what this collective might look like when I began, but the incredible beauty, the individual poetic voice of each of the women, the momentum that is rumbling…. soothing yet powerful..fills my heart to overflowing.
Take your time.. there is great wisdom and nourishment here.. again. Come back through the month and consider some of the perspectives of these Wise Women to see how you might take in pieces of their offerings in ways that are just right for you.
With love from my heart to yours..
What’s one act of loving care that you do for yourself each day, and how does it fill you up ..with peace, gratitude, and beauty?
One act of loving care that I do each day is practice yoga. I do this daily because it makes me feel good, and it is my way of putting myself first. There was a time when physical activity was important to me, but as a busy mom and business owner, sometimes it had to come last–I would try and fit it in after doing my work, taking care of my family, and this led to inconsistency and not honoring myself and my wellness first. I have changed my priorities and finally realized that I really do need to put myself first so that I can be there for others, especially my family. The reason why I like Yoga is because it balances all of the important elements of body, mind, spirit & soul. I am nurturing all 3 of these important aspects in this dedicated time each morning. My yoga teachers always teach an important lesson as we are move through the sometimes rigorous poses, I am learning, growing and opening my heart and mind to new opportunities and new ways of looking at things (and I feel like I am “double dipping” because I am getting a killer work out). Not only does it help me to open up, stretch and grow–I am also doing breathing techniques which I have learned to use throughout the day. It helps me to see my faith through a different lens, for the past 10 years I have grown my faith, but more than ever, I am able to make the connection between my body and spirit and sense of purpose. The fact is, I respect my body even more, it is a gift from God which I need to honor. As a top performer I have always had a history of working hard, being “all or none” (i.e. out of balance) and pushing to get ahead. I am learning (“am”, this is a journey, I have in no way arrived) that it is equally important to rest, to be open to change, to let go, to be, and most importantly to be present with what is really important to me and my priorities (not what others think I should be or what my role as mom or business leader “should” look like). I love that I am more focused than ever on deciding what it is I want in life, and planning my day and week to create time for things that I enjoy doing. Yoga is my daily dose of “me time” and putting myself first, it is so good for you mentally, physically and spiritually–it awakens your authentic spirit and guides you to be who you really are mean’t to be.
I am so grateful to be able to do yoga each day. I am grateful I made the decision years ago to start a business so that I could be in control of my schedule and have flexibility. This decision serves me even more today as it allows me time to focus on other areas of my life like wellness, family, recreational time, personal time, and time to be the heart of my home. This attitude of gratitude is what makes it such a gift to me. When I sit on my mat before class begins, I can’t help but think how grateful I am that I have this flexibility (something that is very important to me as a mom, as a woman and as an entrepreneur). I am grateful that I live a healthy life style, not only do I take the time for this, but also that I am surrounded by like minded people, that are also looking to live their best “HIPP” life! A result of this practice has given me a lot of peace in my heart. As a high energy person, I need to somehow release this energy, it serves me well most of the time, but yoga balances it out for me. Likewise, as a person that has a huge vision, huge imagination, thinking can become all too consuming. Yoga allows me to get out of my head, and drop the thoughts that race in my mind and don’t serve me. I can still have a big vision, but not sweat the small stuff (I sweat that right out). This all leads to peace and I can say that this practice is a tool to continue to experience peace. Even after a hectic day or week, I can step on my mat, and leave the studio (or at home) and feel more grounded and at peace, what a blessing!
Pam Guyer is a wife, mother, speaker, author, entrepreneur and lifestyle expert. With 20 years experience in leadership development, training, and life/business coaching, Pam has taken everything she has learned through business and life, and has created her brand, Living HIPP (Happy Inspired Passionate Peaceful). As a top leader in Direct Sales, Pam has been part of a dynamic culture in social selling, that not only changes lives financially, but personally. She is passionate about inspiring women to live their best life, and creating time to enjoy the things they love to do. Living HIPP is a cross roads of success principles and self care–this intersection empowers women to own their lives, create success (success is living life the way you choose to live it) and taking care of themselves so they can care for others. Pam holds a Masters Degree in Training & Development and lives on the North Shore of Boston with her husband, 3 children and 2 dogs.
In addition to a daily yoga practice, I find beauty in these daily or weekly activities that I participate in:
early morning reading/meditating, walking my dogs, creating a clean organized space in my home, quiet time with tea, pampering at the spa or at home, walking the beach, a warm crackling fire in the winter months, or sitting on my front porch on a sunny spring day, a trip to whole foods or the organic farm (I love how I feel when around fresh food), and what brings me most joy, is hanging out with my family at home (when we are not “doing” and just “being”)! Lastly, I laugh a lot! Days are busy, and times are still hectic or mundane sometimes (that comes with the territory of family life), but having a sense of humor is critical, and everyone that lives in my home has a sense of humor. The way we connect often times in the home (not always the case) is through humor, and nothing cures any daily challenge, upset, or “routine matter” more than a good laugh!
For more information and tips on living hipp or to learn more about her book, go to www.livinghipp.com
I’m a registered dietitian who went into the field in an attempt to heal myself of a life-crippling eating disorder. So when I think of how I practice daily self-care, my thoughts automatically go to the fact that I make a point every day of listening to my body and feeding it what it seems to need. I do it without judgment about what I look like but based on what I feel like, and I make choices that call on my whole body and mind to decide that. I think beyond what just sounds good to consider how I think I will feel physically and mentally after eating. I’m not always perfect at that but I am so grateful that I know I don’t have to be.
It took me a long time to get to this place but it has been an infinitely worthwhile journey because in feeding myself well, I put in place a foundation for doing what I want with my life. At the end of the day, I don’t circle concerns about food, calories and weight but instead appreciate that I can give my attention to things that really matter to me. One of those things is beautiful food — I am a true foodie and it gives me great pleasure to be able to appreciate good food and help family, friends, colleagues and clients appreciate it, too. Ultimately, I’m at peace with my eating and I’m filled with gratitude that I have been able to successfully put behind me a struggle that plagues so many women today. It is heartbreaking that so many women aren’t able to do this because of misperceptions about what feeding ourselves well takes in terms of time and energy and what it includes.
Marsha Hudnall, MS, RD, is president and co-owner of Green Mountain at Fox Run, a Vermont retreat now in its 40th year of operation as a pioneering non-diet program to help women who struggle with overeating and weight. Marsha’s mission at Green Mountain has been to help participants learn to enjoy food and eating while successfully managing their weight and health. An accomplished writer, she has produced a body of work that reflects her desire to help women move away from restrictive notions of food and health, and thereby more easily achieve a healthful intake. www.fitwoman.com
In the name of transparency, making time for loving care for myself had recently fallen out of practice. After years of working to build my business, success came, and with it… appointments, meetings, deliverables and commitments. My devotion to myself wavered and became a devotion to my calendar. I lost contact with friends and found myself hiring babysitters too much of the time, despite the fact that my business was built on the premise that we women could be thriving entrepreneurs without sacrificing our mothering.
So I got sick. Really sick. The kind where you barely leave your bed for two weeks and lots of doctors are involved. This was just a couple of months ago, so I re-emerge with a renewed connection to how vital it is to love myself and make the space for peace, gratitude and beauty. Just a few days before my children returned to school I got an email from a yoga studio that they were having a challenge… attend 30 times in 30 days. And I decided that this was just the level of commitment that I needed to show the universe, my body and my heart how much they were valued. I’m on day 24 right now (with a couple of doubles thrown in!) and I don’t think I’ll stop. These hours spent on my mat, for me, have been more healing and miraculous than any doctor or medicine I’ve tried.
My physical body has healed. But more importantly my sense of time has healed. I stand powerfully in the commitment that I can take two hours a day for my own health and well being. As I pull and stretch, bend and straighten, I find my mind quiet… not thinking, just feeling and listening.
Kiva Leatherman is the Founder of the Wise Women Network, which inspires women to live up to their worth – emotionally, physically and financially. Kiva encourages women to know themselves, to know about their money and to achieve success and happiness on their terms. WiseWomenNetwork.com
I’ve been very busy this past year. Friends have gotten married, filed for divorced, and had babies, and I’ve hardly noticed. Unfortunately, my dog has become a bit pudgy from lack of exercise and my garden is more weed-ridden than I would like. This is because I’ve been writing a book while at the same time trying to juggle everything else.
Sometimes my head spins out of control when I see my “to do” list, and all I want to do is crawl back into bed. However, remarkably I’ve remained pretty sane, as well as happy and joyful, throughout much of these intense 18 or so months.
I owe this, in large part, to the fact that I rarely let myself get so busy that I skip a meal. Even when there’s an incessant pinging of incoming e-mails, the phone is ringing off the hook, and there’s stacks of drafts to edit, as much as possible I make time to sit down and treat myself to a delicious dinner. For some, the best form of self-care is a luxurious bath and for others it’s a solitary walk in nature, but for me, it’s a good meal.
People often tell me that they don’t cook for themselves, only for friends and family. But, why should delicious, homemade meals just be reserved for others? I believe in the power of nourishing ourselves with the same love and care that we give to others.
It doesn’t have to take a lot of time to feed both your spiritual and physical appetites with a satisfying meal. Often I make a large batch of soup, curry, stew, or whatever it is, and then eat it for a few days, which cuts down on prep time. Not only are these meals tasty, but also they’re infused with my love and intention, which is more nurturing than anything I could purchase and eat on the fly. And when I’m really short on time,
I believe living well and eating well should be tasty and fun. By savoring the little moments in our lives, including the foods we eat, our lives will be more enriched. As a result, we’ll be healthier, happier, and more balanced. Believe it or not, when we slow down and take the time to relish each delicious bite, our mood improves, our body better metabolizes our food, and we’re more open to hearing the whispers of our soul. Here’s to
While cooking professionally, Meadow began to see the powerful connection between not just what we eat, but also how we eat and how we feel. Having watched countless people transform their lives simply by making mealtimes fun and delicious, she decided to devote herself to learning about and teaching how we can savor life more fully.
While getting her master’s degree at Columbia University, Meadow studied the history and sociology of eating in France. She writes a blog filled with delicious recipes (www.savortheday.com) and is the co-author of Quest. Her latest book, The Mystic Cookbook: The Secret Alchemy of Food, written with her mother Denise Linn, will be released in late November. Look for it wherever books are sold.
To learn more about becoming a Mystic Chef, visit www.MeadowLinn.com
The thing I adore about that first moment in the morning when you open your eyes is that the day is yours for the taking.
I’m an early riser so I wake at 5:15am every weekday, and my first act of loving self-care is to set conscious intentions for how I want my day to unfold. Doing this has seriously changed my life – instilling a deep sense of peace in my heart while simultaneously giving me a strong sense of purpose for my day ahead.
When I choose a guiding word for the day like ‘joy,’ ‘completion,’ ‘electric’ or ‘ease,’ I focus in on the way I want to feel – the kind of energy I desire, and the kind of energy I want to send out into the world.
In those first delicious moments of the day, before I head outside to move my body and before I dive into my work, I love taking pause to get shiny-diamond clear on the things I’m manifesting. I see myself there, grateful, content. My life is filled with beauty and blessings when the words THANK YOU punctuate the beginning and end of every day.
Rachel MacDonald (nee Magahy) is a soul-centred writer, social media maven and wildly enthusiastic community builder. Her life’s mission is to help bright sparks create and live bigger, bolder, richer, more radiant lives.
Her site In Spaces Between has become the go-to for juicy inspiration, confidence building, fear fighting and mindset shifting. A visit to the site has been likened to a big ol’ hit of happiness. Straight to the soul.
Rachel has just released her first eBook More Magic, All the Time: 20 Ways to Create Your Best Life Ever, which you can get your hands on for FREE by clicking here: http://inspacesbetween.com/round-ups-resources/the-ebook-has-landed-make-magic-all-the-time-
Does a glass of wine count? Lol! No, seriously… when I wrap up the day, I love to sit on my back porch with my family and a glass of wine. We light the fire, enjoy the nature and just talk. After the kids go to bed… my hubby and I snuggle out there. Life is always so hectic from the moment you wake up, so when I have a chance to just enjoy my family, it’s a blessing. Those nights always ground me and remind me what’s important in life.
I wish I had more “me” time… but honestly w/ running my own business (which includes travel), having two young & active kids and trying to keep up a good marriage… there’s no time to spend hours reading a book or going to the spa. Yes, I always have to refill my own cup… in order to be a good mother, wife and business owner. So, I enjoy “me time” whenever there’s a chance. But I have to be honest, there’s not time these days to do this daily… at least not at the moment. So, my family time is my fountain of youth. I breathe it in deeply, let the stresses of the day melt away and revel in my greatest accomplishment. 🙂
Emmy-winning journalist Cindy Morrison teaches everyone from network TV journalists to corporate CEOs how to strategically use social media to build brand loyalty, raving fans and their bottom line. Her social media savvy has been highlighted on national TV shows like FOX News, CBS’s “The Talk”, The Washington Post, The New York Post & The Huffington Post. Good Morning America’s Tory Johnson calls Cindy her favorite Social Media Strategist and they’ve spent two years together on the 2011 and 2012 National Spark and Hustle Tour to help women entrepreneurs across the country make more money. Cindy has helped create social media buzz at events from star-studded Hollywood fundraisers to national conferences. The 20 year TV news anchor and investigative reporter discovered the power of this media to connect with viewers and get exclusives. After corporate downsizing, Cindy reinvented herself as a nationally sought speaker and used the platform to promote her self-published book. Her social media marketing strategy sold more copies of “Girlfriends 2.0” in the first month alone than the vast majority of first time authors ever sell! That’s when Cindy developed her SOCIALVENTION programs and coaching to show entrepreneurs as well as big corporations & franchises how to utilize social media engagement, video and branding to rise above the competition and not only survive but thrive our changing world.
Most people learn this about me sooner or later: my life revolves around food. I think of food, I dream of food, I love nothing more than creating healthy and luxurious dishes for my family every day. And I’m a stickler for freshness so I go to the market every day.
In the morning, I grab my husband and we head out for daily errands. (And yes, we do this in all kinds of inclement weather. We’re hardy folks.) We visit the local coffee shop first and chat with our favorite baristas. And then we walk down to our most trusted grocery, which is a small family owned business, and start scheming for dinner.
We know all the butchers, deli people and produce managers by name so we are always able to get great stuff – plus we love developing friendships with people in our community.
While this morning ritual may not sound like much, it deeply nourishes me. The morning walk with my husband is a way for us to connect in a small way each day. We have a strong relationship and this simple morning jaunt around our neighborhood refreshes us physically and emotionally – I’d like to think that these little moments are sacred and a way to continue to build upon the loving journey that we have been on together.
At the same time, we are also forming positive and friendly relationships in our community. The simple act of saying hello and getting to know the people around me not only makes me feel happy and connected but it also reminds me that I am part of a bigger whole. We’re all in this together and we need each other. How beautiful is that realization? That interconnectedness with my spouse and my community is priceless to me.
Theresa Reed (alias: The Tarot Lady) is an intuitive Tarot reader, astrologist & yogi with over twenty years of professional experience. She’s devoted to helping people make better decisions & lead happier lives — using Tarot as an instigational tool for confident, bold & emotionally-intelligent action — in life, in love & in business. When she’s not thumbing through her favorite deck or lip-syncing to gangsta rap, you can find Theresa chilling around her virtual ‘hood at TheTarotLady.com and on Twitter at @thetarotlady.
I believe we are all beautiful containers of light, and that we are infinitely loved, infinitely resourced, and whole, and our job is to remember that.
When I think about myself I sometimes laughingly call myself a spiritual detective. I walk through my life noticing things, paying attention to signs, to symbols, to emotions, to dreams, to poetry. Signs of support. Webs of connection. The Language of Spirit. I take notice of the cycles and rhythms of everything that constantly remind us we’re all part of the continuing flow.
When I came across Mary Oliver’s poem Instructions for Living a Life, it took my breath away. She so succinctly defined how I try to live each day. “Pay Attention. Be Astonished. Tell about It.”
So I keep my eyes, my ears and my heart open. And one of my favorite ways to enter into this space is with my daily gratitude practice. Whether writing in a journal or reciting in my heart or aloud, the act of appreciation and gratitude places me firmly in the joy stream. And this is where magic happens. Gratitude places you in the joy of the moment, but it also opens the door to welcoming more. It literally feels like dancing on an infinity loop!
The invitation gets extended again and deepened. Pay attention. Be astonished. Tell about it.
Because I believe we are meant to anchor as much of our Divinity into the physical as we possibly can, into the here and now of our daily life, this invitation feels like the perfect guiding light to staying present. Not falling into the past or trying to slip into the future, but being here now. Blessings and beauty abound and I’m committed to welcoming, receiving, and loving as much as I am able.
Deborah Weber is an intuitive, a reader of the Akashic Records, a channeler of the angelic realms, and a Joy Guide. She channels The Sacred Rose Council, who bring forward messages of love, joy and unity consciousness and offer energy infusions filled with the tangible vibrations of love and support. It is Deborah’s mission to empower people by helping them understand the bigness of who they truly are; help them find and use the gifts they came here to express with; and remind them of the divine love and support always available, so that every person can always stand fully in their joy. She is also a flower essence practitioner and aromatherapist, and finds these are wonderful tools for supporting, shifting and uplifting energy. Her website is Temenos of the Blessing Light