If you agree with my belief that empathic or sensitive women…those who more easily pick up the emotional energies, feelings and thoughts of those around them, are also likely to overeat or use food or weight to try to anchor or ground themselves..keep reading.
It’s easy to make the connection between overeating when we’re upset, anxious, triggered by something that’s going on in our life. Easy to see that we have become used to self-soothing with food, or by not expressing feelings such as anger or resentment or even more powerful aspects of ourselves that want to shine.. by using food.
But what about when you’re feeling kind of antsy, a little off, kind of uneasy and you find yourself opening the cupboard doors (again), staring into the refrigerator..wandering around the kitchen looking for something to actively change how you’re feeling.. when nothing much is going on?
This is a time when you might want to ask yourself a different kind of question and you may find it very helpful, and the answers surprising. The next time you find yourself roaming for food when you’re not hungry.. you’ve just eaten, you know it’s not true physical hunger but you feel that uneasy gnawing.. ask yourself ” Who does this belong to?”. In other words, whose emotion have you picked up.. what emotional energy are you carrying for/from somebody else.
For example you may have a difficult phone call with somebody in your family and you’re still holding their energy. Or you’ve been listening to a friend who is going through some difficult times.. or maybe you’ve had a conflicted exchange with somebody in your office.. or are even just feeling their negative mood as you pass by them in the office. Oftentimes, you don’t have to talk to somebody to know, to sense and feel what’s going on for them.. you feel it.. you know it in your own body.
The problem is, sometimes you don’t realize that this happens to you. You may not be truly aware at this point that you’re this kind of empathic or sensitive and so when you absorb the emotional energy around you and “take it on” in your body and personal energy field, it feels like it’s yours. Most people aren’t aware, and don’t differentiate, and therein lies much of the problem.. and why you then turn to food or other addictive patterns to try to get some relief. Because you aren’t aware of what’s happening.
This is a very different way of walking through the emotional landscape.. not just by trying to change habits around eating and reacting in those ways, but in the paradigm shift.
In understanding that much of what you’re feeling may not be ‘yours’ you begin to look at other ways that you are taking on energy from other sources and become more interested in ways to hold your space and create boundaries in ways that you haven’t before.
Staying grounded, and in your body and in present-time are ways to lessen the mixing-and-mingling in other people’s energies and emotional fields. I’ve written a fair amount of posts on this which may help you.
I definitely recommend my digital home study course for anyone who relates to the heaviness and feeling of being weighed down and taking on too much of other peoples’ emotions.. giving too much, overnurturing.. taking that which is not yours on. My home study retreat for women who are empathic and struggling with eating and/or weight is “Recovering Beauty”. I also recommend Colette Baron-Reid’s new book “Weight Loss For People Who Feel Too Much” (perfect title)..
**For anyone ordering my homestudy digital book, you will also get a complimentary consultation.. just you and me, skype or phone to help you get the most out of it.. for a limited time.. When you order the book, just email me and we’ll set it up.
Big love to you… xox