As I shared a couple weeks back, I’m on a sugar detox. I tend to cleanse or detox in one form or another fairly regularly- usually a few times a year minimum. I like the order, the structure, the commitment.
I like calming down the energies that swirl around addictive habits, something that hijacks my energy.
If it’s true that we have a limited amount of energy daily to “spend”, then it’s true that I have historically spent quite a lot around what to eat, what not to eat, feeling badly about choices, obsessing, cravings… you get the picture.
So when the most charged choices are removed and taken off my plate (pun intended) there is a whole boatload more energy to spend.
These times become highly productive for me. I write more. I clean up loose ends. My mood improves, and as is usually true, one good act begets another. If I refrain from eating this or that, I am more likely to make other choices of self-love and care. That’s not nothing. That’s not really deprivation.
It seems like where we give something up, we get back something even more powerful. Things get easier, there is more flow. Is that bigger than being able to eat what I think I want? If you read my article last week about my sugar detox that’s happening right now, you’ll know that I have given up all fruit and anything with a ‘sweet taste’- that’s the boundary for this cleanse. Yes, I miss my favorite fall apples that are only available for a short window in late September/October. Yes I miss having honey in my tea, a drink in the evening, a little something in my mouth when I’m bored or wanting comfort. And it’s ok. Those are habits and there is a bit of discomfort separating from them.
But the ease everywhere else. The not having judgement about what I ate, The release from worrying about my body or weight. The efforts spent going on and off whatever I think will ground me on a daily basis. That takes a really lot of energy for me and I am pretty sure you know what I mean.
So this is not about trying to seduce you into any kind of cleanse of your own. This is just me sharing a moment in time, and being able to observe what really happens when we surrender to some of the things we most fear. We fear deprivation, and discomfort, and having to “give up” the things we truly believe we need.
And so much of that is illusion. It really is. Most of us have had the experience of changing something big, of something we believed meant doing without, and all the beliefs we had of how much we would suffer.
And then finding out the powerful truth, that in fact we felt better. We were made of different stuff than we’d thought. That all sorts of interesting gifts arose in the new space we created by making the change we’d dreaded.
So as always, I invite you to consider what is calling to you right now. As always my writing to you is about listening more closely to your own guidance and taking it seriously. Giving yourself permission to make a change when you can hear the whispers calling you forward. It doesn’t have to be about perfect, it doesn’t have to be forever, and it doesn’t at all have to be about food.
One very beloved client wrote to me this morning to tell me that she refrained from sending a note to her former lover, something she knew he’d enjoy seeing, but something she knew would throw her back into a dynamic that had become painful and that had hooked her for too long. Had kept her connected to painful patterns for too long. She wasn’t willing to sacrifice how good she’d been feeling lately. So it can be like that too. Choosing, deliberately and consciously from a place of self love, compassion, and of wanting more of good things.
And of course I want that for you.
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