“It is better to begin in the evening, than not at all”- English Proverb

It’s that perfectionism thing, during attempts to lose weight, that most overeaters struggle with day in and day out (and evenings too!). Do you find yourself caught in black and white thinking, particularly around eating? If you regularly speak of food as good or bad, you do. I have found that these ways of thinking rarely, probably never, do my clients any good in making positive changes regarding eating patterns or weight loss.

Although it’s reasonable to observe patterns in your choices and to look for ways you might improve, the good/bad mindset leads more often to bingeing, or other ways that you revert to uncomfortable patterns. The quote above reminds us that we are better beginning in any moment, rather than getting stuck in trying to do it all perfectly.

What is your experience around this? Do you find yourself waiting for a Monday, or the New Year, or after a certain occasion has passed to make changes? It’s a trap- you may be better off riding the wave of a moment of inspiration, a wish to feel better, or a vision of what it would be like to create freedom for yourself. Choosing an external, such as a Monday or the next morning, keeps the choice outside of yourself, where it will have little meaning, and therefore little holding-power.

Wishing you a lovely day-

xox

Lisa

Hi everyone- we are so pleased to be able to let you know of our new membership site-The IntuitiveBody Sanctuary! This will be a private online members-only sort of club for women struggling with their eating and their weight. We have a private online message-forum where you can receive daily answers and coaching to absolutely any questions you have- whatever’s on your mind, that could be getting in the way of living free of overeating, you will get almost immediate support from me, and from a community of other women - we will all be in fabulous company.

Plus- we will have all of my articles archived and organized there, audio clips you can click onto to hear guided medtitations and relaxation exercises from me, tips to inspire you and support you, recipes, and occasional teleclasses with me and other experts- you are going to get it ALL, baby!! Anything i can dream up to better support your journey out of overeating, it’s yours, for a really low annual fee.

Right now we are giving a special offer to the first 29 women that sign up as Charter Members, with great bonuses, and an annual fee that will NEVER increase- sound good? check it out- this is a really wonderful way for anyone to work directly with me- I even have clients from Europe, plus all over the States joining as Members.

I would love for you to be one of my 29Charter Members but you will need to hurry to get one of the spaces- with the bonuses and special price, they will go quickly. Just go to IntuitiveBodySancutary now and sign up.

Everything you want or need to break out of food-hell will be there, it’s ALL INSIDE. And it’s only going to get better as time goes on, this will be where ALL of my creative energy and ideas go- don’t miss out.

love and blessings to you-

Lisa

It’s true- how many times have you heard “when I lose weight, then I will be happy”… or apply for a new job, start dating, learn to dance, and so on.

Guess what? It never works that way. Losing weight comes when you begin to care for yourself by finding ways to be happy- in other words, you can’t lose weight or go into deprivation-mode in order to make the other changes. You need to find ways to create more pleasure and more happiness and satisfaction right now, so that you can build a solid foundation of wellbeing that will inspire you to take steps to get healthier and release the weight and addictive-eating.

IntuitiveBody is a way to holistically put all of the pieces together so that you have a life that brings you happiness and freedom right now- today, so that you can also take the steps and find the love for yourself that allows you to make the changes to break out of weight and eating misery.

I am about to roll out 3 amazing (if I do say so) programs at IntuitiveBody.com that are designed to support you in brand new ways, to get you powerful results immediately. You will want to stay tuned- I want to help you change your life- It’s totally doable- you know I would NOT joke about this.

We have been so busy redesigning the new website, getting all of the new programs ready, the Sanctuary ready, and we have had a few glitches. As you know, I am no techie-babe, plus Friday was my birthday and I was ready to play. Last year was the BIG birthday, so this year was easy. My kids were spending the week with their Dad, the weather was gloriously sunny and dry, and I got to have lunch with my favorite women on 3 different days, which is a total treat for me- I am usually housebound all week, writing, working, and such, eating my usual salad at my desk… Last week was a blast! And then my husband and I had a wonderful night out Friday-all in all a great birthday week!

I was reading an article in recent issue of Vogue while waiting to get my hair cut this week. The article had an interview with LeBron James(I know nothing about sports- seriously), the star basketball player. He describes how he keeps his edge in this paragraph:

“During a recent practice, LeBron looks and feels good….all goes well as he sinks ball after ball. And then- a bad shot, a little off. As the next ball reaches his hand, he pauses, just for a millisecond, as if hitting the reboot button. Next shot, and all the ones following- dead on. ‘It’s all about refocusing yourself’, he explains. ‘For me, it’s such a habit, and I know what I’m doing out on the basketball court, so if I do something wrong, then I know how to switch the switch and turn it right back on, to readjust myself. Right there and then. It doesn’t take me a day. It takes me just’- he snaps his fingers-’one play’.”

I was really struck by his ability to refocus and come back to center in each moment. As he said, it doesn’t take him longer than that.

What if you were able to be that focused on your goals? What if every time you veered away from your core intentions, values, desires, you became immediately aware of it? And what if upon finding that awareness you were both willing and able to pivot your attention back on course?

To be that CLEAR- that was what really just blew me away. The clarity of knowing what you want, and keeping that in the forefront of your attention, and IN-tention so that you could immediately sense when you were going in the wrong direction, and could quickly right yourself- with no fuss or resistance, no excuses or defensiveness. Simply notice and “reboot”.

These athletes know a lot about focus, intention, and desire. They keep their eye on whatever their prize is all the time- and they don’t spend much time analyzing, defending, explaining or getting distracted from where they want to be.

What if you were able to move through your days like that? Staying completely focused and committed to whom you decided to become- what would that feel like? Let yourself consider what living that way might do for you. What if you believed that you could choose to stay as focused on your goals and desires as an all-star million dollar athlete? Go ahead, try that on. That kind of ability to focus is your ticket to really getting where you want to go- whether around commitment to what you need to do to get out of struggling with compulsive eating, or anything else.

Wishing you love and every blessing,
Lisa

When you want to stop overeating, and are looking at possible strategies, consider these words, “progress not perfection”. Perfection, is impossible, so you may as well ditch that strategy as quickly as you can.

Perfectionism also drives overeating and other addictive, self-soothing behaviors- I would venture to say that every single one of my overweight or bulimic clients is a big-time perfectionist. Their perspective makes life hellish. They feel never-good-enough, try to do it all, get little or no pleasure or satisfaction out of any of it, and feel so drained from all of the efforting and stress that they…. start eating in ways that make them hate themselves more.

Much better to focus on movement towards your goals. Set gentle intentions that don’t leave you feeling like a massive failure when you are unable to meet them. Never set a goal that you cannot absolutely meet- if you make them small and bite-sized, you will feel encouraged, confident, and most importantly you will keep moving forward.

Perfectionistic goals are often punishing, impossible, intensify your negative self-beliefs, and are so overwhelming that you give up. Nothing good comes of this- trust me. I am an old perfectionist from way back, and I continue to have to modify these tendencies.

Life is no fun as a perfectionist- that perspective really does suck the life out of you and everyone and everything around you- it’s like wearing the Red Shoes from the old fairy tale- the girl who could not stop dancing, who had to go faster and faster until she dropped from exhaustion (I think that is the end of the story- anyone remember?).

What if you just aimed for “a little bit better”? What would some kinder, gentler intentions and goals look like? They may not give you the big “hit” of excitement and anticipation that you get when you set huge ambitious goals, but guess what? You never reach those goals anyways- they don’t get you anywhere, they usually paralyze you with fear and dread.

Just try it my way! What are some small totally reach-able goals you could set, just for today?  Even a goal like “will eat 2 servings of vegetables today” is a fabulous goal that will do you tons of good, and how totally easy is that? But if you meet that goal, and eat those spring veggies- I guarantee you will feel good about it, and you will be on your way!!

Another gorgeous sunny day here in the country- bliss.

xox

Lisa